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Topic: Explain why dating is not an effective method for screening out future divorces especially those that take place early in marriage
Dating is not an effective method for screening out future divorces because dating involves getting intimate with someone without there being any commitment. Usually many people enter a dating relationship with no real intention of committing. They are those who would rather have the nice temporary pleasures that an artificial intimacy can give them without having the security of commitment (Olson, D. & DeFrain, pg. 275). Dating often mistakes a physical relationship for love (Olson, D. & DeFrain, pg. 275). Many people often try to define love and limit it to something we can touch, sense, or feel. True love and intimacy, on the other hand, involves much more than a mere physical connection. Genuine love involves connection on several levels which are emotional, intellectual, social, and spiritual. Dating also tends to skip the friendship stage and heads straight into the romance part, thus bypassing true intimacy (Olson, D. & DeFrain, pg. 275). In addition, if dating consist of more physical contact rather than meaningful conversations, then that is a weak premise for building a satisfying, meaningful relationship that will have any good chance of surviving.
If you are trying to copy and paste, it's clearly not working. Try it one paragraph at a time, and if that doesn't work either, you'll need to type your work in.
Explain why dating is not an effective method for screening out future divorces especially those that take place early in marriage
Dating is not an effective method for screening out future divorces because dating involves getting intimate with someone without there being any commitment. Usually many people enter a dating relationship with no real intention of committing. They are those who would rather have the nice temporary pleasures that an artificial intimacy can give them without having the security of commitment (Olson, D. & DeFrain, pg. 275). Dating often mistakes a physical relationship for love (Olson, D. & DeFrain, pg. 275).
Dating is not an effective method for screening out future divorces because dating involves getting intimate with someone without there being any commitment. Usually many people enter a dating relationship with no real intention of committing. They are those who would rather have the nice temporary pleasures that an artificial intimacy can give them without having the security of commitment (Olson, D. & DeFrain, pg. 275).
Dating often mistakes a physical relationship for love (Olson, D. & DeFrain, pg. 275). Many people often try to define love and limit it to something we can touch, sense, or feel. True love and intimacy, on the other hand, involves much more than a mere physical connection. Genuine love involves connection on several levels which are emotional, intellectual, social, and spiritual.
Dating also tends to skip the friendship stage and heads straight into the romance part, thus bypassing true intimacy (Olson, D. & DeFrain, pg. 275). In addition, if dating consist of more physical contact rather than meaningful conversations, then that is a weak premise for building a satisfying, meaningful relationship that will have any good chance of surviving.
This is the end of short essay.
First of all, you need to define "dating" -- just going out to movies, dinner, games, etc., or including intimate relationship status?
Also, which citation guideline are you to be using? MLA? APA? What?
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I'm using MLA. Am I doing it wrong?
Thank you for your help!
In MLA, all you need in the parentheses is this: (Olson 275).
Did you consider how you will define dating? Or the different levels of dating? It's important that you NOT assume that your reader will automatically know exactly what you think.
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The first sentence sounds weird. Dating skips friendship? Don't you mean the people who are dating skip ... ?
I'm not sure on the differnt levels of dating. The teacher did not go over that in class and the book doesn't give specific types. Can I define it as causal dating?
You could define your own levels:
~beginning or casual (note the spelling) dating - movies, dinner, games, etc.
~next-level (?) dating = beginning intimacy
~exclusive (?) dating = complete intimacy
What you're describing as simply "dating" can run a wide gamut -- from casual (as you said) to complete intimacy. It's a vast range.
I'll put commitment to getting married.
Thank you for your comments. They're helpful.
I agree. The way I have it is broad. I have to be more specific. Thank you.
I would define dating, and how long. Marriages break up over incompatities, mistrust, and lack of committment to resolve issues.
Dating for a long period works through many incompatabilities. You get to know someone after two years of being close to them. Yes, some changes occur over time that can form incompatabilites....one spouses committment to work over family, a very sick spouse or child, all these can put strains on a marriage.
Mistrust is based on lack of maturity and failed committments. Dating for a long period reveals these factors. They should not be a surprise later.
Lack of committment should be evidenced somehow in a long dating relationship.
So basically, my view on the topic is that LONG periods of dating or engagement ought to reveal some of the common reasons for failure of marriages.I am not so certain of your meaning of intimate above....if you mean intimate in thought and spirit, it helps. If you mean intimate physically, I can agree with Writeacher that it often clouds the judgement. Sound marriages are based on soul mate relationships.
Good luck, I don't like the topic either because it is too broad to intelligently digest.