In "Marriage is a Private Affair" by Chinua Achebe How do Nnaemeka’s actions/words show us the author’s opinion about following tradition? Write 2 bullet points to answer the question. Use in text citations.
1. Nnaemeka's decision to defy the tradition of arranged marriage and marry the woman he loves, despite knowing that it would bring disappointment and disapproval from his father, showcases the author's opinion that following tradition blindly can lead to unnecessary conflict and unhappiness. For instance, Nnaemeka tells his friend that he refuses to allow his father to control his life: "I'm a freeborn man ... I can make my choice in this matter" (Achebe 9). This suggests that the author supports individuals breaking away from tradition when it stifles their personal happiness and freedom.
2. Nnaemeka's ultimate reconciliation with his father and the acceptance of his intertribal marriage indicates the author's opinion that traditions can evolve and adapt with changing times and circumstances. After initially disowning his son, Nnaemeka's father eventually accepts his daughter-in-law and even reconciles with Nnaemeka by acknowledging their daughter and showing affection towards her, stating, "She is a very fine girl, Nene ... That's why I came to see her" (Achebe 16). This showcases the author's belief that traditions should not be so rigid that they prevent individuals from finding love and happiness outside of the set norms.