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Homework Help: Social Studies: Psychology: Be Here Now!
by David A. Gershaw, Ph.D.
Would you like to have the secret of a sure-fire method
to do better work and get more done? There are no coupons to send in, and
it won't even cost you a dime!
The essence of this secret is summarized in three little words - "Be
here now!" "Be here now" means that you need to
do what you're doing when you're doing it - you need to be where you are
when you are there. You need to pay attention to what is happening - what
you are doing - here and now. It is a very simple concept, but it is often
hard to do.
Talking to ourselves causes this difficulty. We have a little voice
in our head that rarely keeps quiet. If you doubt me, close your eyes and
concentrate on what is going on in your head. Try it now.
You may have thought, "What little voice? I don't hear a little
voice." These thoughts are your little voice. This little voice
is one aspect - the verbal component - of your thinking.
To know if you are
paying attention,
just listen to your inner voice.
If you really concentrate while you are reading, you can hear your little
voice saying the words as you read them. Listen carefully. The same is
true when you listen to someone talk. If you are really listening to that
person, you say what they are saying a fraction of a second after they
do. Next time someone talks to you, listen to yourself listening.
That little voice tells us if we are here and now. As long as this voice
is talking about what is going on - the task at hand - we are concentrating.
We are very likely to accomplish what we need to do. However, we often
allow that voice to get off the track.
As you're reading this article, your little voice might say: "Yeh,
I remember when my toy train went off the track and broke. Uncle Bill fixed
it for me. Uncle Bill was really nice. I wonder what he's doing now."
Although it is not wrong to think about Uncle Bill, it certainly does not
help whatever task you are doing at the time. Beside Uncle Bill, it could
be anything - a test you took yesterday, a weekend date, a bargain sale
that ends today.
Your little voice also could be doing unproductive thinking about the
task at hand. "Why do I have to do this? It's not going to help
anyway. Besides, I have other things that I would much rather do."
(Then the voice would probably go back to that date or the sale.)
If you do this, don't get angry at yourself. It happens to all of us.
If you get angry with yourself, all the little voice will do is continue
to distract you. However, this time it will just be telling you how incompetent
you are, because you're not completing what needs to be done.
How can you deal with your wandering? Accept it. You can say, "Here's
that thought again." Accept it as part of being human, and then
gently turn to the task at hand. Some distracting thought is almost certain
to occur again. Just become aware of what has happened, and lead yourself
to the task again - the here and now.
All we ever have is here and now. It is hard for most of us to accept
is that we do not have a future or a past. The past exists in our memories,
but only when we bring those memories to the here and now. A memory is
not a memory, unless that little voice is discussing it now. Remember Uncle
Bill? Until you think about him here and now, he isn't even a memory.
Saying that we do not have a future, some people think, "Hurrah,
it's party time - no more responsibilities or commitments!" What
we are saying that the only time we have to do anything is now. For example,
you can think, daydream, speculate, fantasize, or plan about tomorrow.
You cannot do anything tomorrow until tomorrow becomes now.
Your goals will determine what you need to do in the here and now. Most
goals cannot be achieved without actions here and now - without preparation.
Most of us want to earn a lot of money. We have to devise some method to
get this goal, like gaining skills that will help us in the job market.
Obtaining these skills become sub-goals, which require actions to reach
them - getting on-the-job training, becoming an apprentice, going to a
trade school or college.
Some people are rarely in the here and now. These are the "I
can't wait until..." people. They rarely enjoy or pay attention
to what they are doing now, but merely hope for a better time. "I
can't wait until I (move away, go to college, graduate, get a job, get
promoted, retire)." They rarely enjoy today, because they are
just looking at tomorrow - but doing very little about tomorrow in the
here and now.
To help you do something now about your future, some courses at AWC
can help greatly - College Survival, Study Skills,
Vocational Exploration, Decision Making. They can help you to develop
basic skills for school, your job, and your whole life. Some modules of
these courses are still available for this Fall semester. Register for
them now.
* Adapted from David B. Ellis' Becoming a Master Student, College
Survival, Inc., 1985, pages 56-57, the text used in the College Survival
course at AWC.
Homework Help: Social Studies: Psychology
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