Victorian England
women were expected to with only one man, their husband.
is that true ?
Yes, it is.
Were the women abusive because of how different the men were treated from women ? Like how they were aloud to take there kids and they couldn't and how the men are able to divorce the women but the women's aren't aloud to divorce them ?
That depended on where one lived, Ciara. Even today, in some African societies, men are allowed to divorce wives by just saying so, but women cannot divorce husbands. But that's not "Victorian." "Victorian" applies to English-speaking countries during the realm of Queen Victoria of Great Britain.
Were women abused under Victorian moral codes? Some think so, but others do not think so. And, even in Victorian times, women were usually allowed to have custody of their children even if the husband/father abandoned the family, and certainly if the husband/father died. Children and the home were considered the woman's responsibility.
Note that women who might be abused are not abusive. The abuser is abusive. Watch your grammar tenses. And "aloud" means to speak so that others can hear you. To "allow" something is quite different.
Oh okay and thanks.. So what were some of the abuses of women in Victorian England?
Women were not allowed to vote, for one thing. Women were rarely allowed to vote in earlier times, either. Under Victorian moral codes, women were idealized as protectors of home and family, but had little formal way to have any influence outside the home. They were sometimes not allowed to enter into contracts. They may not have been able to sue someone who cheated them. A man might have been able to divorce his wife and keep all their property, essentially throwing her out in the street, even if she had worked with her husband to acquire that property. The woman had few legal rights of her own. That was considered to be okay at the time, but now we think such things are abusive.
On the other hand, women were idealized as pure and the keepers of morality, while men could go out into the world and get away with adultery and all sorts of behavior we might think are immoral. Men could go out and get drunk, but women were not allowed in bars or pubs. It goes on and on.
Similarly, it was allowed for men to beat their wives and children if they misbehaved in the man's way of thinking. Men were the rulers, women had no say in the matter. Women and children were considered, even under many laws, to be the property of their husbands and fathers. When a woman got married, she was no longer the property of her father, but of her husband.