Can someone please explain the exotic becomes erotic theory by daryl bem, i have read it but i cant understand what its really saying thank you

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daryl_Bem#Exotic_Becomes_Erotic_theory

Exotic Becomes Erotic theory
Bem's Exotic Becomes Erotic theory (EBE) presents one possible explanation as to what differentiates the etiology of homosexuality from heterosexuality.[7] Bem theorized that the influence of biological factors on sexual orientation may be mediated by experiences in childhood, that the child's temperament predisposes the child to prefer certain activities over others.[8] Bem noted that, because of their temperament, which is influenced by biological variables such as genetic factors, some children will be attracted to activities that are commonly enjoyed by other children of the same gender, while others will prefer activities that are typical of the other gender. Bem theorized that this makes a gender-conforming child feel different from opposite-gender children, while gender-nonconforming children will feel different from children of their own gender. Bem believes that this feeling of difference evokes physiological arousal when the child is near members of the gender which the child considers as being "different". Bem theorizes that this physiological arousal is later transformed into sexual arousal: that, as adults, these people become sexually attracted to the gender which they see as different, or "exotic".[9]
Bem based this theory in part on the finding that a majority of men and s report being gender-nonconforming during their childhood years. A meta-analysis of 48 studies showed childhood gender nonconformity to be the strongest predictor of a homosexual orientation for both men and women.[10] Bem also noted that, in a study by the Kinsey Institute of approximately 1000 men and s (and a control group of 500 heterosexual men and women), 63% of both men and s reported that they were gender nonconforming in childhood (i.e., did not like activities typical of their sex), compared with only 10-15% of heterosexual men and women. Bem also drew from six prospective studies, longitudinal studies that began with gender-nonconforming boys around age 7 and followed them into adolescence and adulthood; a majority (63%) of the gender nonconforming boys become or bisexual as adults.[11]

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Certainly! The Exotic Becomes Erotic theory, proposed by psychologist Daryl Bem, aims to explain the origins of sexual orientation, specifically the development of homosexuality. According to Bem, people tend to become sexually attracted to individuals who are different or exotic from themselves during their early development. This theory focuses on how biological factors, combined with early childhood experiences, influence sexual orientation.

To understand this theory in more detail, it would be helpful to break it down into key components: biological factors, childhood experiences, and sexual orientation.

1. Biological factors: Bem suggests that sexual orientation has a biological basis, meaning there may be genetic or hormonal influences on a person's sexual preferences. However, he also emphasizes that biological factors alone cannot fully explain the development of sexual orientation.

2. Childhood experiences: Bem argues that early childhood experiences indirectly influence sexual orientation by shaping our preferences for certain gender-related activities and interests. He proposes that children develop a preference for activities and roles that are opposite to their own, which he calls "cross-gender identifications." These early experiences contribute to the formation of a person's sexual orientation later in life.

3. Sexual orientation: Bem argues that individuals who have a higher number of cross-gender identifications during early development are more likely to develop a homosexual sexual orientation. In other words, individuals who feel drawn to activities, interests, or roles typically associated with the opposite gender may be more inclined towards same-sex attraction.

It is essential to note that Bem's theory is just one of many attempts to explain sexual orientation. It is important to approach scientific theories with an open mind and recognize that human sexuality is complex and multifaceted, and no single theory can capture its full complexity.

To gain a deeper understanding of Bem's theory, you may wish to read his original research papers or explore academic critiques and discussions surrounding the theory.