Having an alcoholic parent was the crisis in our family. My father began drinking when he was young in social gatherings. Once he married my mother he began to drink more often. My father and mother did not have good communication skills during their marriage. My dad had a passive communication style and my mother had an aggressive communication style. My father concealed his feelings and used alcohol in order to cope with his feelings. My mother did not know how to deal with his drinking in a more constructive manner and instead she would accuse him of making her unhappy. She used many negative forms of communication, for instance, she spent more time pointing out my father’s flaws instead of his good qualities. Both my mother’s communication and my father’s drinking problem pushed both of them away from developing intimacy in their relationship. As the years went by their relationship was becoming more challenging for the both of them and so they decided to separate after ten years of marriage.
My parents could have prevented this crisis by taking classes that helped them improve their communication skills before they got married. Their lack of communication skills is what caused their marriage to fail in the first place. If they both would have taken classes that taught them to communicate in an assertive manner, then both of my parents would have gotten their needs met in a more productive manner. My father would have been able to express his feelings and he wouldn’t have used alcohol to cope with his emotions. My mother could have also benefited from these classes because she would have learned to use more positive forms of communication in order for her to have her needs met.
My mother also could have prevented this crisis by having professionals conduct a family intervention before my father’s addiction progress further. My father also could have gone to rehab in order to get help from professionals who know ways of helping him get out of his additions. My parents also could have benefited attending groups that helped them both learn ways of improving their self-esteem. They both could have attended church and participate in the church activities that are geared towards married couples. They could have learned ways of approaching conflicts in a healthier manner by the help and support from other married couples. My parents also could have gone to other support groups for instance, my father could have gone to Alcoholic Anonymous meetings and my mother could have gone to Alanon meetings. These self-help groups could have helped them to not feel alone or isolated. If my parents would have used any of these tools, there marriage could have had a higher chance of surviving.
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Having an alcoholic parent was the crisis in our family. My father began drinking when he was young in social gatherings. Once he married my mother he began to drink more often. My father and mother did not have good communication skills during their marriage. My dad had a passive communication style and my mother had an aggressive communication style. My father concealed his feelings and used alcohol in order to cope with his feelings. My mother did not know how to deal with his drinking in a more constructive manner and instead she would accuse him of making her unhappy. She used many negative forms of communication, for instance, she spent more time pointing out my father’s flaws instead of his good qualities. Both my mother’s communication and my father’s drinking problem pushed both of them away from developing intimacy in their relationship. As the years went by their relationship was becoming more challenging for the both of them and so they decided to separate after ten years of marriage.
Add commas where needed (after introductory clauses/phrases, in compound sentences, etc.); fix the run-on; figure out how NOT to have "his feelings" twice in the same sentence
My parents could have prevented this crisis by taking classes that helped them improve their communication skills before they got married. Their lack of communication skills is what caused their marriage to fail in the first place. If they both had taken classes that taught them to communicate in an assertive manner, then both of my parents would have gotten their needs met in a more productive manner. My father would have been able to express his feelings and he wouldn’t have used alcohol to cope with his emotions. My mother could have also benefited from these classes because she would have learned to use more positive forms of communication in order for her to have her needs met. Comma uses; verb tense sequence in "if...then" types of sentences (too many "would have" expressions where they are not accurate)
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Comma uses: http://grammar.ccc.commnet.edu/grammar/commas.htm
Verb tense sequencing: http://grammar.ccc.commnet.edu/grammar/verbs.htm#sequence
Run-ons: http://grammar.ccc.commnet.edu/grammar/runons.htm
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You're welcome! It's clear that improved communication skills and seeking professional help could have made a positive impact on your parents' marriage and helped prevent the crisis caused by your father's alcohol addiction. There are several steps they could have taken to address these issues:
1. Taking communication classes: By learning how to communicate assertively, both your parents would have been able to express their needs and feelings in a healthier manner. This would have helped to reduce tension and conflict in their relationship.
2. Family intervention: Your mother could have organized a family intervention, involving professionals who specialize in addiction and family therapy. This intervention would have allowed your father to see the impact of his addiction on the family and encourage him to seek help.
3. Rehab and support groups: Your father could have benefited from professional treatment in a rehabilitation center. This would have provided him with the necessary tools and support to overcome his alcohol addiction. Additionally, attending support groups like Alcoholics Anonymous would have given him a sense of community and the opportunity to learn from others who have faced similar challenges.
4. Improving self-esteem: By attending groups or therapy sessions aimed at improving self-esteem, both your parents could have worked on building their self-confidence and developing healthier coping mechanisms. This would have helped them to navigate their relationship and conflicts more effectively.
5. Church and community support: Participating in church activities geared towards married couples would have offered your parents a supportive and understanding community. They could have learned from the experiences of other couples and received guidance on how to approach conflicts and maintain a healthy relationship.
6. Support groups for family members: In addition to Alcoholic Anonymous, your mother could have attended Alanon meetings. These support groups are specifically designed for family members of individuals struggling with alcohol addiction. Attending these meetings would have provided her with a space to share her own experiences, gain support from others facing similar challenges, and learn new coping strategies.
By utilizing these various tools and resources, your parents could have had a better chance at addressing and resolving their communication issues and your father's alcohol addiction.