I am a spanish speaking person, so this is my best shot. Please understand me. Thanks.
Being aware of this fact, I proceed to find out what are my nonverbal listening patterns. To do so, I prepared a 500 word speech to be presented in less than half an hour to a small group of my Church. In order to obtain the feedback, I previously asked them to gauge my actuation. Finally, I discovered and confirmed by my attendance that I was nervous; my face perspired, my hands quivered, and I was about to loose my concentration. In addition, I repeated some words like a leitmotiv: "Eh"; "Well"; and "I know". The people told me that I repeated some of them more than ten times. Moreover, I realized also that I skipped an important paragraph, so that my whole message did not reach my audience, even though they let me know that they understood pretty well what I was saying.
Once arrived at home, I made introspection and analyzed my speech performance. I concluded that I had a lot to improve if I want to be a good speaker.
So, I decided to undertake the following steps to overcome the bad habits due to my nervousness and to improve them. I have to prepare myself not only before, but also during, and even after my presentation (if there is time for questions).
First of all, I decided to take my time to prepare well my presentation. I believe in the fact that, according to Boileau, the French writer, what we conceive well will be enuciated clearly and the spirit to tell it will arrive easily. By the same token, we cannot give what we do not have; we cannot say well what we do not know well. So, I have to master first my subject before the presentation to my public. After preparing the material, I need to try to understand it and read it aloud alone several times. I can record while simulating the presentation and listen to my own presentation after. Also, I can simulate a presentation in front of my friends or my parents or look at myself showing off in front of a mirror, all of this with the purpose of improving my expression, my voice, my diction, my pitch, among others.
Second, before the presentation, I have to sleep well. Also, I do not have to let myself break down by the fear.
Third, I have to conceive and practice faithfully the following aspects:
1. A good technique to overcome the fear to talk in public in to concentrate oneself and breath deeply seveal times for a while. This type of exercise facilitates a better blood circulation.
2. Another great a proven technique that can help a lot is the contact. When you will first address yourself to the public, spend some few seconds to see your public, to break the ice by nviting everybody to not stay far behind, to come nearer you. By doing so, not only you establish more confidence, but also you gain self-confidence. The idea is: I am the Teacher, I am the one who will give, will demostrate, will guide; I am in control of everything.
But to be in real control of the situation, the speaker should delve about the theme. He or she must master it very well in order to be able to deliver it normally.
3. To master the subject requires time, sacrifice, rehearsalllll, and practice. Also, simulation, prior role-playing can be necessary.
4. The speaker can use the technological techniques such as audiotape, videotape, computer or perhaps a simplier method: mirror observation, to beat the fear.
5. Finally, but not the least, the person has to sleep well prior to the meeting. It is not advisable to loose the whole night preparing the speech; there is a risk to not be able to deliver it as planned.
By doing all of the above, the speaker can avoid the bad body lingual signals such as: body and voice tempering, repeating words or sentences, wandering away from the subject, sweating, or even clasping hands in from of the body.
Now, you are ready to go out there and do your speech without fear, with confidence and with a big smile.
I am a Spanish-speaking person, so this is my best shot. Please understand me. Thanks.
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Once arrived at home, I thought a long while and analyzed my speech performance. I concluded that I had a lot to improve if I want to be a good speaker.
So, <~~delete comma I decided to take the following steps to overcome the bad habits that resulted from my nervousness and to establish good habits. I have to prepare myself not only before, but also during, and even after my presentation (if there is time for questions).
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Second, before the presentation, I have to sleep well, and I cannot let myself break down because of fear.
Third, I have to think about and practice faithfully the following aspects:
1. A good technique to overcome fear of speaking in public is to concentrate oneself<~~delete “oneself” and breathe deeply several times for a while. This type of exercise facilitates a<~~delete “a” better blood circulation.
2. Another great a<~~delete “a” proven technique that can help a lot is thedelete “the” contact<~~contact with whom?. When first addressing the audience, spend a few seconds to see the audience as individuals, to break the ice by inviting everybody to sit closer to the speaker. By doing so, not only does the speaker establish more confidence, but he or she also gains self-confidence. The idea is this: I am the Teacher, <~~delete comma and insert semicolon I am the one who will give, will demonstrate, will guide; I am in control of everything. But to be in real control of the situation, the speaker should delve deeply into the theme. He or she must master it very well in order to be able to deliver it normally.
3. To master the subject requires time, sacrifice, rehearsal, and practice. Also, simulation, <~~delete comma and add “or” prior role-playing may be necessary.
4. The speaker can use the technological techniques such as audiotape, videotape, computer<~~add comma or perhaps a simpler method, such as mirror observation, to beat the fear.
5. Finally, but not the least, the person has to sleep well prior to the meeting. It is not advisable to lose sleep the whole night preparing the speech; there is a risk of not being able to deliver it as planned.
By doing all of the above, the speaker can avoid negative body-language signals<~~add comma such as: delete colon body and voice tempering<~~??, repeating words or sentences, wandering away from the subject, sweating, or even clasping hands in front of the body.
Now, you are ready to go out there and do your speech without fear, with confidence and with a big smile. Find another way to phrase your conclusion without using “you,” “your,” or any other second-person references.
Please be sure to re-post if you have any questions.
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This sentence needs correcting, too:
Once arrived at home, I thought a long while and analyzed my speech performance.
Should be
Once I arrived home, I thought ...
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Would this be better: Now its time to go out there and do the speech without fear, with confidence and with a big smile.
What do u mean by this sentence. I have to what? please explain. thank you.
Once I arrive home, I thought..
The I was missing from that sentence :)
onverbal Listening Patterns
January 5, 2007 was the day Linda and I met for a cup of coffee. I had known her for close to half a year and had really come to like her. By this time I realized I never was tense whenever I talked to her and that I could use the date to declare my love for her. I was determined to find out if Linda really liked me.
I pulled the chair for her and she sat as I took the other on the opposite side of the coffee table. I looked at her in the eyes; she looked backed at me momentarily and then smiled as she looked down. I smiled too. Whatever conversation we were going to have was going to be more than just flirtation. I knew she liked watching cartoons so I raised the topic. She raised her cup of coffee and took a sip. I did the same in synchrony. So far everything was moving along smoothly.
I stretched out my hand across the table, reached out to hers and looking at her straight in the eyes said, “You’re stunningly beautiful, Linda.” She